Redefining Stress AND Our Life…

When someone asks you if you are stressed, what do you say?  You will probably reply regarding the emotional stress in your life.

Yet, there is much more to stress than emotional….. Think about it.  What about your physical stress?  The reason I am discussing this is because when I do a saliva test on my clients I usually see adrenal stress in 95% of the cases.  When my clients fill in their intake questionnaires, I see stress in many systems of their body.  The endocrine (hormones), digestive, blood sugar, and emotional systems are the top three stressors.

There are other physical stressors as well:

  • Living in a toxic world leaves our body stressed.  Detoxifying on a regular basis is a must.
  • Emotions stress our brain causing lack of focus, depression and anxiety.
  • Adrenals are usually fatigued.  No energy.
  • Blood sugar imbalances create weight gain.
  • Digestive upset and creates lack of absorption.
  • Hormones create upset on many levels.
  • Teeth stress the body and organ systems they are connected to.
  • Lack of quality sleep can cause fatigue and other issues.   According to the body clock, your adrenals go through a healing period from 9 – 11 pm, which is the time we need to be asleep to facilitate healing the body.

We live in a stressful world:

There are high demands on our time, often leaving us no time to “play” or take time for ourselves.  AND, if we do take time, well, we feel guilty.  Hmmm, why is that?  What is missing?  Some of my clients report they feel as though they live in a hamster wheel.

Families are really stressed:

Moms and dads are running kids around to so many competitive sports activities.  I remember my brothers having one sport activity a week – during sports season.  The rest of the year they did creative projects like learning to build things, helping their parent’s plant gardens, taking music lessons or just simply playing in the neighborhood with their friends.

Fast Food Creates Stress:

Years ago, when counseled parents, the moms said that they only had time to stop by fast food restaurants for dinner.  There is little food value in fast foods, not to mention the preservatives, excessive salt, trans -fats, sugar and who knows what else in the foods.  Without proper nutrients our children are overstressed.

Homework Stress:

Then there is the homework schedule.  When we were kids, and when my children were in school, we/they were expected to “know how” to do the homework.  But now parents have to walk through each homework assignment with each child and then sign off the assignment.  I think this “robs” the child of learning personal responsibility and the feeling of personal attainment, healthy self confidence and pride.

Homework time is incredibly STRESSFUL for the child and creates stress for the parents.  No wonder there isn’t time to prepare dinner.  By the time all this is accomplished in the evening, everyone’s nerves are frayed, parents and children are tired and cranky and it is time for bed – which also takes a while.

So when do the parents get their time?  They often don’t!  And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high.

All of this needs to change.  My suggestion would be for the children to complete their homework in school, and have one half hour of reading at night only.  Parents need to unite over this to change the system to work for their family.  Talk to the schools, your congressmen/women and the PTA, etc., to create a change that supports personal responsibility for your children as well as quality time for your family.  In some states and counties this issue is being seriously discussed.  This would establish valuable family time for sharing, game playing, making things, – just being a family.  What a concept.

Life stages can be stressful:

It doesn’t matter whether you are single, married, retiring or elderly – stress can be there and depression/anxiety takes its toll.   Financial stress also plays a huge part in our lives today.  Unity is needed.   Reaching out, being thoughtful and including others eliminates stress, yet we have to create this for ourselves as well.

Worldly Examples:

When I read about the European culture and their shorter work hours, shorter amount of weeks they work per year, their nap schedules, etc., I think that we need to take a step back and think about how we can attain that for ourselves.

Many cultures have a lower mortality rates than the U.S. A. where our rank is around 30 for mortality – astounding.  This is serious.  We really need to regroup.  We can learn from other cultures, and we can redefine our priorities.

Think about it.  You have ONE life to live – ONE – right now.  You don’t get the days back:

  • What would you like your life to look like?
  • What can you do to create a more relaxed and happy lifestyle?
  • Write it down – make a list and make a plan for yourself and for your family.
  • Ask your family and friends what they are doing to remove stress.
  • Set an intention and take steps to attain a less stressful life.
  • You may have to “give yourself permission” to take time for yourself.
  • And, most importantly – take time to celebrate and relax – You deserve it!